Would you like to get your power back, have absolute clarity on who you are, be confident and learn how to navigate your way through your new or existing role as a stepmother/father/child without the hassle and insecurities that come with the role? I invite you to join this safe space for blended families. This is a group and community where we learn, unlearn relearn and share. in this space, we own our greatness without apologies.

Adeola Kingsley-James

Lead Confidence, Creative and Clarity Genius

I’m Adeola

As a stepmother, I am keenly aware that balancing and managing the different layers of relationships in a blended home can leave you feeling frustrated, unaccepted, unappreciated, inadequate, insecure and lonely. One thing I have come to know is that it’s possible to overcome all these feelings and feel wholesome, loved and fulfilled again. I would like to walk your journey with you and teach you the steps I took to find the bliss and peace I now have. Join me and walk this journey together. Let’s own our greatness together without any apologies.

About Owning My Greatness

Owning My Greatness (OMG) was birthed because I (Adeola Kingsley-James, Lead Confidence, Creative and Clarity Genius at OMG) made a lot of mistakes in my early years of marriage as a stepmother, there were no support groups for people like us neither was it a topic people were willing to speak about openly, it seemed like a taboo in Nigeria. So I decided to create a safe space for stepmothers/stepfathers/stepchildren in Nigeria where I can share all I have learnt along the way, the tools I have used, the steps I took that has led me to peace, the mistakes I made and the things I wish I knew. I have decided to be the voice to share how phenomenal we are as stepmothers and how precious we also are. I believe everyone especially stepmothers have greatness in them, my job is to help you rediscover it and how to own it. I will support you so that you are confident enough to live a life of your own design. I’ve always enjoyed helping people shine, for if you shine, you give others the permission to shine also. People can move mountains, especially when they have the right help. Have I reached where I want to be? No, however, I am far from where I started from so I invite you to join me on the journey and set up an intro session and we can create new possibilities for you.


It is my desire to teach you the same tools I used on my road to recovery. I want you to know that you are not alone. I am still on this journey with you, and as I continue to live out my name, I will teach you how to live up to yours as well.

Here’s my promise to you: We will sit, you will Speak; we will Ignite, and you will Shine.


Designed Just for You

  • If you do not know your identity and who you are, you will answer to anything you are called: The first step is to run a diagnosis on yourself, this is the stage where we stake stock and YOUR identity is looked into. So Who are you? Who do you say you are? Who do people say you are? Who do you show yourself as? How do people perceive you when they meet you? How do people treat you? How do you treat yourself? How do you speak about yourself? Are you the type that makes a mistake and you call yourself unspeakable names? What words do you use on yourself? Who do you want to be? How do you want to be perceived by people?
  • The way you speak to people is most likely the way you speak to yourself. So I ask how do you speak to people? The words you speak are very important. Words create your life and experiences. Period.
  • What do you see? How do you see what you see? When God spoke to Abraham, he said he will give him as far as his eyes could see, so if Abraham only saw VI, that’s all he would have got, but he was called the father of all nations, so my question to you is, what do you see about yourself and others.
  • The world will only treat you the way you treat yourself and how you teach them to treat you: Do you constantly judge yourself? criticize yourself? are you hard on yourself? All these answers will be answered.
  • You will do a check in the 4 key areas of your life, Health and wellness, Relationships, Spirituality and Finances/Wealth and score yourself. Where you currently are in these stages will show you who you are as a person.
  • Once the diagnosis is done in the ownership phase: The result will be that you will have hindsight, current sight and foresight of who you are and how you have gotten yourself to where you are.
  • You want to recreate the ideal/dream life you truly want to live and who you now want to be, who you want to show up as, who you want to be seen as, what you want to be appreciated for, how you want to be seen, how you want to be spoken to, how you will start to speak to yourself, the kind of joy you want to have, how much fun you want, the kind of family you want to be a part of, how much money you want to have, how much clarity you want to have, the type of job you will love to do e.t.c. You begin to show up differently in the world.
  • Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the person to die: Here, Using forgiveness exercises, You will spend as long as you need to forgive yourself and others and allow people go for your freedom because you can not go forward if you do not clear the baggage you have been carrying of yourself and others for so long.
  • You are a co-creator of your life and experiences and can create the lifestyle you absolutely deserve and desire: In this phase, you enter creator mode and start with I AM and I CAN, for anything after I AM or I CAN is creating something powerful. So words like I am Secure, Enough, Beautiful, Powerful will fill your vocabulary. You will create a powerful I AM mantra and write it down. You will record it on your phone and listen to it daily reminding yourself of who you are and is becoming for repetition leads to mastery. You must choose a time daily preferably in the morning when you wake up, and do this exercise daily, you can write it on post-it notes, paste it everywhere in your house, save it on your phone and create alarms for it till you become it. So when people call you a name that isn’t what you call yourself, you will be able to say that is not me for you now know yourself, you start to show up less where you are not called because now, you know who you are, you are no longer weak and helpless or powerless and depleted. You have become powerful, clearer and more confident.

The next phase is you Grow…

  • This is the stage you work on your passion and focus on your purpose in life, you can create new goals for yourself and your family and make sure you follow through with them, for repetition leads to mastery.
  • this point, you would have identified where you want to get better at and be a master in, you have recreated the life you want to live, and there are places where you need to grow, this could be in emotional intelligence, knowing yourself better, personal development, communication with yourself and others, how to stop self-sabotage, etc.
  • You are a victim of nature and nurture: 85% of what we have registered in our brain happened between the ages of 0 and 8 years old. Because of this, you would have imbibed a lot of your parent’s beliefs, culture has done its deposits, religion has put its deposits, the environment has also done its deposits in you. You will have to rebuild your entire mindset and attitude, you will unlearn, relearn and learn.
  • You need to look for coaches in all the areas you want to improve in and pay for coaches like myself, register for their courses, go to conferences and seminars, work on you and help break the limiting beliefs you currently have. You will follow them closely.
  • At this stage you have taken full responsibility for who you were, you have recreated your dream world and now living it, you have grown and are still growing, you know who you are and can boldly raise your head up, you are able to show up for yourself.
  • You have your goals clearly written out, you have the mantra that you repeat daily, you know what you want to achieve and you are well on the way to achieving it. You are meditating daily, journaling, scripting because you know how important it is to keep coding and calling it in. You are able to look for reasons to feel good and you find them easily.
  • You are bold, competent, you are unapologetic about who you are becoming. You can now have meaningful conversations with people, create healthy boundaries for yourself, say no with a smile. You are creating more empowering beliefs about yourself and others. Your attitude is gratitude always.

Join the group and let’s start your process to Owning your Greatness. We are discrete and confidential, and we will hold your hands through the entire transformational process as my hands were once held to.

I am Adeola Kingsley-James, and I am Owning My Greatness. What say you?



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